Accessibility Tools
www.sane.org
Helpline 1800 187 263
Quick Facts
Self-advocacy involves asking for what you need and speaking up for yourself and your interests. You can do it on your own or with the support of an advocate or other person. Self-advocacy has three key elements: understanding your needs, knowing the kind of support that might help, and communicating these needs to others
It is difficult to self-advocate for what you are feeling when you yourself are having a hard time identifying what your needs are. However, recognising that you have needs as a first step is an important start. Once you recognise your needs, you can then begin to develop an understanding of acceptance that having needs is normal, leading you to build confidence, recognise your rights and to ask for what you need.
Recognising your feelings and emotions can be vital for impactful self-advocacy because emotions influence and inform what you say and do. This is the case for the person with complex mental health issues as well as their carers. As a carer it can be challenging to acknowledge your own feelings when the focus is often on the person you are assisting, sometimes even leading to the suppression of your own emotions. There are tools available to help you recognise and understand your emotions and practice this skill. For example, psychologist Robert Plutchik devised an emotion wheel based on eight primary emotions (see Figure 1). This wheel identifies your emotions but also the degree of the emotion you could feel at a given time. For example, within the emotion of joy, you could feel ecstasy or serenity. This can help you understand the range and complexity of your emotions which can inform the way you respond, react, and behave to certain situations.
Knowing your rights: there are resources available to help you understand more about what your rights are. For example, this video by the Independent Mental Health Advocacy (IMHA) organisation outlines a six-step self-advocacy model. One of the most valuable resources for understanding your rights as a mental health consumer is Mental health statement of rights and responsibilities.
Building emotional resilience: emotional resilience refers to your ability to adapt, change or ‘jump back’ from a challenging and distressing mental and emotional experience. Building emotional resilience could involve:
Understanding what triggers your reaction to situations: being triggered results in the activation of the sympathetic nervous system to prime our body to protect us, and how we react informs our trauma response. Developing a sense of self-awareness about our trauma response may be helpful in maintaining composure when advocating for yourself and while being challenged in difficult situations. This can equip us with the knowledge and self-awareness to recognise when a situation may be distressing and help empower us to practice regulating our responses to stress.
To learn more about the responses and symptoms associated with each, see The Polyvagal chart of Trauma Responses.
Having a good knowledge of the health and social services system: navigating the complex mental health system across Australia can be quite challenging in terms of understanding which group to refer to in what scenario. A good way to start off would be understanding the several treatment and support options available so you can advocate for the one you believe is the best option for you. See SANE’s Treatment for Mental Illness Factsheet and Guide to Mental Health Clinicians.
Each state or territory has a dedicated website explaining the ways to seek support and treatment for people with complex mental health issues and their carers. Some of the websites are listed below for further information.
Self Advocacy is possible by becoming a member of one of the Statewide Mental Health Consumer Peak Bodies which are Lived Led:
Self-Advocacy is also possible for Carers, Family and Friends through the following Carer Peak Bodies that are (Carer) Lived Experience Led:
It can be important to understand your communication style when advocating for yourself or the person you are supporting. A good resource to help you understand your communication style is the Princeton | Communication styles. Practicing tools and techniques like assertiveness and preparedness can help grow your capacity for effective communication. Another good resource to learn effective communication techniques is the Carer Gateway – Skills Module #2: Effective Communicating Techniques
Below are some links to useful information for families and friends to support with self-advocacy.
Self-advocacy and your rights:
Self-development, recovery and personal growth tools:
Resources for empowering us to keep speaking up:
Based on the discussion with a SANE Peer Support Worker about advocacy, agency, authenticity and the power of using your voice: Speak Up: The Power in Using Your Voice
1. How do you build confidence in speaking up, especially about what your needs are?
Practice accepting that having needs is ok! Practice thinking of yourself as a human being that needs certain things to survive and thrive which is help you move towards being able to embrace what you need. Know what your rights are – anything from knowing consumer rights when accessing care and treatment to thinking about what your human rights are in terms of safety and security in relationships. This can challenge how you think about your needs. Start to give yourself some grace – building confidence is hard and it can take a lot of work. Put values into action to help yourself feel more confident. How you act is quite subjective but some of the examples listed by the peer support workers were – caring about community, valuing honesty, practicing allyship and so on and so forth.
2. How does speaking up relate to safety and self-expression?
A quote by Audre Lorde shared by the PSW that really resonated with them was: “Of course, I am afraid, because the transformation of silence into language and action is an act of self-revelation, and that always seems fraught with danger.” Speaking up goes hand in hand with the experience of being perceived. There is a tension between safety, speaking up and people pleasing. While speaking up can be about expressing your needs and values, it can be hard for anyone who might have people pleasing tendencies. Speaking up can be confrontational and terrifying for some. You can start small by building trust in yourself, try to restore connection with your sense of agency by learning how to say no and cultivate a deeper understanding of yourself and your neurophysiological functioning.
Additional resources:
3. How can we put into action what our values are?
Start by asking, what is truly important to you? What do you like? The relationship that you have with yourselves can become a driving force for action in situations related to speaking up about safety and self-expression.
A resource to understand what your strengths and values are to answer those questions:
Be mindful of where you are at before you put anything into action. If you are feeling at limited capacity, come back to actions of:
A resource to read more about this topic:
4. How can you feel more prepared for difficult conversations?
Difficult conversations can look different for everyone. For someone it might be feeling prepared to disagree with a mental health diagnosis or for some it might to talk to their housemate about week-old dishes. A difficult conversation can be political, can be about life and death or can be about what to have for dinner.
Some ways to feel prepared include being mindful of your approach – make a plan, be prepared, take responsibility for how you engage, acknowledge accountability in the circumstances. Have the capacity to engage with your words whenever you can. Be aware of your window of tolerance, which is, engaging in hard conversations only if you have the capacity to do so. Engage with a wise mind and be careful to not make assumptions.
Be present, minimise distractions so you can actively listen, speak with honesty and integrity so you can trust the other person’s word too. Know that you cannot control how the other person responds. It takes vulnerability to be present and willing to accept accountability. It takes emotion regulation skills to be able to respond and not react. Recognise the difference between constructive criticism and attacking.
Acknowledge the power and privilege in speaking up in challenging conversation and navigating conflicts. Be aware of the power imbalance that could possibly impact engagement (patient – doctor/mental health professional). Develop a sense of self-awareness about how you respond to stressful situations to recentering and maintaining composure when being challenged Nervous System Responses (for visual learners).
Resources to help with difficult conversations:
Be willing to compromise and collaborate and knowing that sometimes walking away is the best current outcome for the situation.
5. How might you be able to care for yourself while advocating for yourself or as a carer? What does self-care look like in practice when advocating?